The Two Main Paths to Consanguinamory

There are two main paths to consanguinamory, or the objective reality that at least two closely biologically related people have sex, and perhaps an ongoing romance or marriage-style relationship. While the prejudiced may dismiss all consanguinamory as the same (in their small minds) inexcusable behavior, the differences in these paths do have an impact on the participants and those around them. This is why people who are on one path may not understand those on the other, or want to be associated with them.One main path to consanguinamory is Genetic Sexual Attraction (GSA). GSA is an extremely intense attraction that may occur when close biological relatives meet any time after puberty either for the very first time, or the first time since...

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I'm Not Kidding

Visit (and follow) my Tumblr blog for stuff like this, a defense I wrote of consanguineous lovers in response to someone else's Tumblr po...

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Posted in: consanguineous,incest,myths

Rinella on Rights

The brilliant, talented, and lovely author Diane Rinella has just blogged about why we deny people their rights.We don’t deny people their rights because we want to, we do it because they are in situations that either we don’t understand or can’t comprehend. We all know of the struggles that homosexuals have faced to gain the right to marry and be treated as equals. Every day we see it on the news and we experience it with our friends. Therefore, it is very easy to analyze the subject. However, what if the situation is something that you don’t think about? It’s a type of relationship that is happening around you, yet you’re completely unaware of it because those involved are living in shadows. The truth is, not only do you know people who are or have been involved in relationships you can’t...

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Posted in: allies,children,consanguineous,LGBT,marriage equality,polyamory,solidarity,stigma

Zimbabwe Still Prosecuting Consenting Adults

From allafrica.com comes this report of the criminal prosecution of first cousins for the "crime" of loving each other. Two cousins who were involved in an incestuous relationship which resulted in the birth of a girl and current pregnancy will perform 630 hours of community service. The two's fathers are brothers and traditionally are expected to treat each other as brother and sister. Ashley Feremenga (19) and her cousin Robson Feremenga (21) were living as husband and wife in Dzivaresekwa before neighbours alerted Ashley's father Jonasi.I wonder what the love lives of those neighbors are like... if they have a love life in the first place. Must not be very fulfilling if they have time to rat people out for loving each other.I'm sure...

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Posted in: Africa,breaking up homes,children,consanguineous,courts,cousins,family reaction,lack of equality harms,love,prejudice,prosecution,Zimbabwe

Welcome Michael Brown Readers

Thanks to Michael Brown for the link. Notice that in his latest column he did not explain why he opposes marriage equality. I invite you to check around here and see that marriage equality is nothing to fear. The column on the right and the tabs above at the top of the page will have many links of intere...

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Why Not Solidarity?

Here's an older entry on the blog that is still relevant, so I'm bumping it up. Here’s a question that touches on prejudices and solidarity as they relate to marriage equality.How come the right to marrige fight only includes gay marriage and does not include the right for bisexuals to marry both sexes, or adult incest marriage and even more so polygamy? It obviously is not about the right to marry, so why do we lie.I am here, fighting for full marriage equality. But it is true that there are people who only want the freedom to marry extended in a way that benefits just them or their friends. You’re right; they aren’t really fighting for the right to marry or for marriage equality, just their own freedom to marry. But there are others who fight for full marriage equality.The question got some...

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Posted in: marriage equality,prejudice,solidarity

Another Marriage Denied Equality

By my count, this is the thirtieth ongoing relationship I've covered through exclusive interviews in which the lovers are denied the freedom to be open about their love and are denied their fundamental right to marry.Chelsea is a bright young woman, legally free to marry a complete stranger. But she can't legally marry the man she is living with as husband and wife.Read the interview below and ask yourself if there is one good reason these two consenting adults should be denied their right to marry. THIS INTERVIEW DOES GET SOMEWHAT SEXUALLY EXPLICIT.*****FULL MARRIAGE EQUALITY: Describe your background.Chelsea: I am a college graduate at a major Texas University and majored in Business Administration and currently reside just outside of Dallas,...

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Posted in: brother-sister,consanguineous,family reaction,father-daughter,lack of equality harms,love,Oklahoma,siblings,Texas

Request For Polyamorous People

The more books we have like this, the better, so please consider responding. Here is the request...My name is Richard Gilmore. I am a member of a MFFM quad. We have been in this configuration for over 13 years. My partner Elon and I have written a book called, Creating A Line Family. Our editor (Alan of Poly in the Media) made a good suggestion, include personal stories. So what we are looking for are interview volunteers who are members of a poly family. Here are some of the questions we would like to hear about.1. What types of intimacies - besides sexual - do you share with your partners?2. What vision, or long range plans do you have for your family?3. How are household chores managed, both regular duties and emergent failures?4. How is "family money handled?" By this we are talking about...

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Samoa Still Imprisoning Consenting Adults

Jasmine Netzler reports at samoaobserver.ws... A 59-year-old father and his 34-year-old daughter were jailed yesterday for incest.The sentence was handed down by His Honour, Justice Vui Clarence Nelson, at the Supreme Court.They are both consenting adults. Who is the victim of this "crime?"The father was jailed for six years while his daughter was given 18 months.Outrageous. The daughter was banished following her relationship with her father being brought before their village council, Justice Vui said.Her father on the other hand was ordered to provide 50 boxes of tinned fish. He was not banished.Sounds like a shakedown. During his sentencing remarks, Justice Vui said he was curious as to how the village reached its decision.I want to know...

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Posted in: breaking up homes,consanguineous,father-daughter,incest,lack of equality harms,love,prosecution

When an Employer Realizes You Are Consanguinamorous

Not only are most consanguineous lovers still denied their right to marry, not only are they still subject to criminal prosecution in many places, but even where they are not violating any laws, they can be fired for being consanguinamorous. So most people in such relationships are not out to their employers.But even if someone doesn't come out, others can tell sometimes. Haven't you ever seen people interacting and realized they were in love, even if they weren't holding hands or kissing in front of you? Sometimes, there is no hiding love.Such was the case with one Friend of Lily, whose relationship with her brother was initiated through Genetic Sexual Attraction. She wrote this recently...My boss (who I have known for about ten years) came...

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Posted in: allies,brother-sister,coming out,consanguineous,GSA,love,siblings

Coverage of Genetic Sexual Attraction Case

Ignorance abounds when it comes to Genetic Sexual Attraction, as evidenced by both many of the journalists writing about the Mistie Atkinson case and certainly the people commenting on the stories. Outlets all over the word have covered the story, most just reprinting versions of the same two or three articles. [I am bumping this up because a news outlet decided to print this story as if it just happened.]Here it is at dailymail.co.uk. The headline?Mom who made sex tape with son, 16, is jailed for four years... but says it was just a case of 'genetic attraction' after they were reunited after 15 years apart That makes it sound like she was making a video to show others. Mistie Rebecca Atkinson, 32, was sentenced to four years and eight months...

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Posted in: California,consanguineous,courts,family reaction,GSA,incest,law,mother-son,myths,prejudice,prosecution,reunion

19 Responses to Anti-Polyamory

Much thanks to MultipleMatch.com for running my defense of ethical nonmonogamy, such as polyamory, polygamy, and so on.Click here to read "19 Responses for Answering Anti-Polyamory & Plural Marriage"Bumped ...

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Posted in: group,myths,open,polyamory,polyandry,polygamy,polygyny,prejudice,swinging

Update on Zambia Attack on Family

Bertha Chipapuka, 35, with her 11-month-old baby and her ‘brotherly’ husband Mukuwa Nicholas Bulaya, 38, appeared before Serenje Magistrate’s Court for incest. Authorities in Zambia continue with their attack on a family, which we wrote about here before. Chambo Ng'uni reports at daily-mail.co.zm... SCORES of residents yesterday thronged the Serenje Magistrate’s Court to hear the case of incest involving Mukuwa Nicholas Bulaya and his younger sister Bertha Mwenda Chipapuka. Some residents arrived at Serenje Magistrate’s Court before 08:00 hours and scrambled for a few seats inside the courtroom when the doors were opened while others stood on the doorway and windows to hear the case.So much interest. Are they voyeurs?Mr Ngosa said...

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Posted in: Africa,breaking up homes,brother-sister,children,consanguineous,family reaction,GSA,incest,lack of equality harms,love,prejudice,prosecution,siblings

Less Bloom in the Flowers?

Jean Bentley at zap2it.com wrote that the Lifetime adaptation "Flowers in the Attic" needs more incest.Cutting some of the especially creepy and disturbing stuff from the book for the Lifetime audience -- the blood feeding and the rape, in particular -- makes sense. But just one chaste kiss between the two adolescent siblings? Come on, we're all here for the soapy incest. Quit pretending we're not.Have you seen it? What did you think have you read the books?Of course, if you want brightly blooming flowers, read Diane Rinella's writings that touch on the themes of consanguinamory and abuse. Rinella's works definitely deserve screen adaptatio...

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Martin Luther King, Jr.

In the US, Monday is a holiday, Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day. He was a giant in the fight for civil rights.Over four decades after he was assassinated, the fight for civil rights continues.History is on our side. Consenting adults will be free to exercise their rights to share love, sex, residence, and marriage.Are like those who kept trying to keep some people second-class citizens, or are you like the people who marched with Ki...

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Posted in: allies,marriage equality,prejudice,USA

Out In Africa

Thabo Seroke has an important commentary printed at thoughtleader.co.za about human rights and civil rights in some African countries. A couple of months ago, Uganda asked a question that could usher in the systematic hate aimed at a group of people. The question was simple: Who is going to inspire the senseless murder of gender-variant people in Africa? This was not a view that needed to be vocalised by Ugandans, but many nations responded. Nigeria is the latest. The Same Sex Marriage Prohibition Act, which provides penalties of up to 14 years imprisonment for gay marriage and a maximum of 10 years for membership or encouragement of gay clubs, societies and LGBTI organisations, was last week signed into law by Nigerian President Goodluck Jonathan.Since then, nearly 40 people have...

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Posted in: Africa,lack of equality harms,LGBT,Malawi,polygamy,polygyny,same-sex,Uganda

Frequently Asked Question: Why Is Incest Illegal?

It shouldn’t be illegal anywhere, as you’ll see. As always, we note that we are talking about consensual incest, such as between consenting adults and between minors close in age. We are not talking about anything involving coercion or force or molestation. There are laws against rape, assault, and molestation, and they should remain. We are talking about consensual incest, consanguineous sex and marriage, and consanguinamory, whether initiated through Genetic Sexual Attraction or not.Short answer: It isn’t illegal everywhere, but where it is, it is the lingering result of sex-police holdovers, superstition, prejudice, and legislative inertia. Long answer:A significant part of the reason is that some cultures have an ancient taboo against incest,...

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Posted in: consanguineous,FAQ,freedom to marry,incest,law,myths,prejudice,prosecution,religion,stigma

A Polyamorous Woman Denied Her Right to Marry

By my count, this is the twenty-ninth ongoing relationship I've covered through exclusive interviews in which the lovers are denied the freedom to be open about their love and are denied their fundamental right to marry.Zoey is a beautiful young woman, someone you might give a nod and smile to if you saw her shopping in your local store. If you want to see her NOT SAFE FOR WORK Tumblr, you can find it here.Read the interview below and ask yourself if there is one good reason her right to love the adults she does should be denied.*****FULL MARRIAGE EQUALITY: Describe your background.Zoey: I am almost 23. I am in a type of polyamory/open relationship with my girlfriend Tess (almost 25) and my boyfriend Jack (almost 24). These are our fake names...

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Posted in: bisexual,children,coming out,family reaction,freedom to marry,lack of equality harms,love,open,polyamory,polygamy,polygyny,triads

A Young Woman Denied Her Rights

By my count, this is the twenty-eighth ongoing relationship I've covered through exclusive interviews in which the lovers are denied the freedom to be open about their love and are denied their fundamental right to marry. This is a possible case of Genetic Sexual Attraction.Jacquelynn is a beautiful young woman. If you want to see her NOT SAFE FOR WORK Tumblr, you can find it here.Read the interview below and ask yourself if there is one good reason her right to love the adults she does should be denied.*****FULL MARRIAGE EQUALITY: Describe your background.Jacquelynn: My name is Jacquelynn. I’m a white female American of legal age. I live on the North East side of the U.S. I am the oldest blood sister of 6 (soon to be 7) siblings. None of...

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Posted in: brother-sister,consanguineous,family reaction,GSA,lack of equality harms,love,reunion,siblings,uncle-niece