World AIDS Day

December 1 is World AIDS Day. It is very important to remember those we've lost to AIDS, to care for anyone battling AIDS, and to care for anyone with HIV. We must continue to work for a cure and continue to fight the spread of HIV.We should also never forget that stigmas, ignorance, bigotry, sex-negative attitudes and shaming have helped spread HIV and AI...

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Ten Myths About Sibling Consanguinamory

I’ve noticed some common myths expressed about sibling consanguinamory. In this instance, by consanguinamory, I mean everything from curious exploration and experimenting to erotic romance, including masturbating in front of each other, erotic kissing, sexual touching or rubbing, oral sex, intercourse, etc.This entry is NOT addressing molestation, assault, or abuse.I’m referring to adult siblings, or minor siblings who are close in age, engaging in mutual affection or experimentation, without coercion, force, or intimidation. It may be two siblings alone, it may be three or more siblings, or it may be two or more siblings involved together with one or more people outside of the immediate family.These myths need to be addressed, because they...

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Posted in: brother-brother,brother-sister,consanguineous,FAQ,GSA,incest,love,myths,prejudice,siblings,sister-sister,stigma

We Get Letters

This blog is visited by people all over the planet, and welcomes comments and I also welcome your emails and private messages. Everyone once in a while I publish some of those messages in a blog entry, which is what I’m I’m doing here.Our entry Frequently Asked Question: How Common is Incest? is consistently the most popular entry. An anonymous hater left this comment, which I didn’t publish…My God people, you are so sick. I just need to go and vomit now.Very rarely is a criticism of any substance left.Helena left a comment after another FAQ response that answers why consanguineous sex is still illegal in many places.i REALLY wish people would not use the term inbreeding , a child is born of love in a consensual consanguinious relationship...

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Posted in: aunt-nephew,boundaries,brother-sister,children,consanguineous,family reaction,GSA,lack of equality harms,love,prejudice,reunion,siblings

We Get Letters

This blog is visited by people all over the planet, and welcomes comments and I also welcome your emails and private messages. Everyone once in a while I publish some of those messages in a blog entry, which is what I’m I’m doing here.Our entry Frequently Asked Question: How Common is Incest? is consistently the most popular entry. An anonymous hater left this comment, which I didn’t publish…My God people, you are so sick. I just need to go and vomit now.Very rarely is a criticism of any substance left.Helena left a comment after another FAQ response that answers why consanguineous sex is still illegal in many places.i REALLY wish people would not use the term inbreeding , a child is born of love in a consensual consanguinious relationship...

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Posted in: aunt-nephew,boundaries,brother-sister,children,consanguineous,family reaction,GSA,lack of equality harms,love,prejudice,reunion,siblings

Scotland Still Prosecuting Consenting Adults For Loving Each Other

From this report at stv.tv, it appears as though Scotland is still prosecuting adults for consensual sex. What century is this again?  A man is to stand trial accused of having sex with his half-sister.Doesn't that sound ridiculous? What a waste of resources. Every bit of money and time put into prosecuting this case could have been spent prosecuting abusers.John Bowes is alleged to have committed an act of incest by sleeping with half-sister Sheila Drummond Bowes at a property in Dundee's Douglas area in summer 2011.I don't think sleeping is the issue here. Bowes is alleged to have "had sexual intercourse with a person related to him" between July 26, 2011 and August 4, 2011 at a flat in the city's Ballater Place.The 48-year-old,...

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Posted in: brother-sister,consanguineous,courts,GSA,incest,lack of equality harms,law,prosecution,siblings,UK

Scotland Still Prosecuting Consenting Adults For Loving Each Other

From this report at stv.tv, it appears as though Scotland is still prosecuting adults for consensual sex. What century is this again?  A man is to stand trial accused of having sex with his half-sister.Doesn't that sound ridiculous? What a waste of resources. Every bit of money and time put into prosecuting this case could have been spent prosecuting abusers.John Bowes is alleged to have committed an act of incest by sleeping with half-sister Sheila Drummond Bowes at a property in Dundee's Douglas area in summer 2011.I don't think sleeping is the issue here. Bowes is alleged to have "had sexual intercourse with a person related to him" between July 26, 2011 and August 4, 2011 at a flat in the city's Ballater Place.The 48-year-old,...

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Posted in: brother-sister,consanguineous,courts,GSA,incest,lack of equality harms,law,prosecution,siblings,UK

Dancing Around an Elephant?

Advice columnists, I'm sure, get many more inquiries dealing with Gender, Sexuality, and Relationship Diversities (GSRD) than get selected for print, some more direct than others. Here's one that made it. TAKES ONLY TWO TO TANGO wrote to Dear Abby...I have been dating my boyfriend, "Jose," for a year. Before that, we were friends for five years.That means she has had a lot of time to get to know him and his behavior. Ever since I've known him, he and his half-sister, "Blanca," have danced together at parties. We're all in our mid-20s.They dance salsa, merengue and other styles of music together. I used to think it was cute, but now that Jose and I are a couple, I find it annoying and a little creepy.So he's doing what he's always done as long...

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Posted in: brother-sister,consanguineous,GSA,prejudice,siblings,stigma

Dancing Around an Elephant?

Advice columnists, I'm sure, get many more inquiries dealing with Gender, Sexuality, and Relationship Diversities (GSRD) than get selected for print, some more direct than others. Here's one that made it. TAKES ONLY TWO TO TANGO wrote to Dear Abby...I have been dating my boyfriend, "Jose," for a year. Before that, we were friends for five years.That means she has had a lot of time to get to know him and his behavior. Ever since I've known him, he and his half-sister, "Blanca," have danced together at parties. We're all in our mid-20s.They dance salsa, merengue and other styles of music together. I used to think it was cute, but now that Jose and I are a couple, I find it annoying and a little creepy.So he's doing what he's always done as long...

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Posted in: brother-sister,consanguineous,GSA,prejudice,siblings,stigma

District Judge Sees the Devil's Harvest

In 1936, marijuana was vilified as the harvest of the Devil; the gateway drug to the hard stuff.  Reefer Madness was a propaganda campaign that swept the country in the years following prohibition.Fast forward to the post-modern era of the second decade in the 21st Century, and we see marijuana legalized in a growing number of states, at least for its, er, medical use; the Justice Department ignores significant manufacturing and distribution operations, as directed by the U.S. Attorney General; and the SCOTUS is considering whether to hear a case this term to remove marijuana from Schedule 1 of the Controlled Substance Act.While the Michigan Medical Marijuana Act has attracted much attention in the courts and the media all over Michigan,...

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Posted in: Controlled Substance Act,Judge Mark Somers,medical marijuana,Michigan Medical Marijuana Act

Married Couple Confirm They are Half Siblings

Another case of possible Genetic Sexual Attraction has made news. From chinasmack.com...In Jiangxi Province, a young married couple were always teased for “looking like each other”. Not long ago, the wife’s father suddenly spoke of a secret: it turns out that many years ago, he and the husband’s mother were secret lovers. Later on, the husband’s mother became pregnant, while the wife’s father fell in love and married someone else. On top of that, the husband’s mother has been dead for over 20 years, so this secret was almost buried forever, up until this young married couple decided to have a child.Affairs, flings, one-night-stands, divorce/death and subsequent remarriage, etc. have always been a reality in making half-siblings. But now, with...

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Posted in: Asia,brother-sister,China,consanguineous,family reaction,GSA,love,science,siblings

Married Couple Confirm They are Half Siblings

Another case of possible Genetic Sexual Attraction has made news. From chinasmack.com...In Jiangxi Province, a young married couple were always teased for “looking like each other”. Not long ago, the wife’s father suddenly spoke of a secret: it turns out that many years ago, he and the husband’s mother were secret lovers. Later on, the husband’s mother became pregnant, while the wife’s father fell in love and married someone else. On top of that, the husband’s mother has been dead for over 20 years, so this secret was almost buried forever, up until this young married couple decided to have a child.Affairs, flings, one-night-stands, divorce/death and subsequent remarriage, etc. have always been a reality in making half-siblings. But now, with...

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Posted in: Asia,brother-sister,China,consanguineous,family reaction,GSA,love,science,siblings

Illinois Becomes 16th State to Legalize Same-Sex Marriage

Springfield, Illinois, the Land of Lincoln, was the site of the execution of a law making Illinois the 16th state in our Union to legalize gay marriage.  Last week, Democratic Governor Pat Quinn, writing on a desk said to be used by President Abraham Lincoln, used 100 pens to ink the law into full force and effect.The law, officially known as the Religious Freedom and Marriage Fairness Act, takes effect June 1, 2014.  Illinois recognized "civil unions" prior to the crucial votes putting the bill over the top by state legislators earlier this month. 34 states still prohibit same-sex marriage under the law.  The practice is far from universally accepted, despite the momentum that the civil rights has garnered over the past 24-months,...

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Posted in: Abraham Lincoln,civil union,Governor Pat Quinn,same-sex marriage,SCOTUS,United States v Windsor

Taking the Steps

I have frequently seen the question asked, “It is incest to date my stepbrother?” or “Would marrying my stepsister be incestuous?”Romance, dating, sex, or marriage between step relations is not literally consanguinamory, but is often subject to the same prejudices, which in some places and cases includes criminalization, as consanguinamorous relationships. With Discredited Argument #18 not a factor, the excuse to try to deny others their relationships is usually Discredited Arguments #1, 3, 19, or 21.Although someone may try to control our relationships, we can’t effectively control what other people do with their love lives and we shouldn’t try. We don’t pick who our family members love or marry. As such, sometimes someone is brought into...

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Posted in: boundaries,family reaction,FAQ,incest,love,prejudice

Step-Parent Adoption Goes to the Michigan Supreme Court

By: Timothy P. FlynnSometimes, in the post-judgment phase of a divorcee's life, things can go haywire.  The divorce process can push good parents "off-the-grid". There is a statute in Michigan that provides for the termination of a divorcee's parental rights if that parent neglects to pay child support and fails to communicate with the children for two years.  For this to occur, the other parent must re-marry and the new spouse must petition for the termination of parental rights as part of a step-parent adoption proceeding.In a case just recently accepted for briefing and argument by the Michigan Supreme Court, the concept of legal custody within the context of the step-parent adoption statute will be decided.  It could come...

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Posted in: child custody,family court,family law,Michigan Court of Appeals,Michigan Supreme Court,step-parent adoption

Is Being Poly Genetic?

The Ferrett addresses, “Polyamory Genetic? Is Homosexuality Genetic?”My thoughts on a genetic polyamory link are the exact same as my thoughts on a genetic homosexual link:I don’t care.Right! We have many things, including the technology I’m using to write this and you are using to read this, which are not part of our genetics. What difference does it make? See Discredited Argument #5.Even if the gays were, as some suggest, all conspiring in one big plot to annoy us fine-thinking straight people, wincing as they sucked distasteful d--- and reluctantly chowed p---y out of some misplaced form of rebellion, it should still be allowed.The truth is, gay sex is between consenting adults, and it hurts no one but those adults – there are way more deadly...

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Posted in: allies,FAQ,freedom to marry,LGBT,polyamory,science,stigma

News Media Request For GSA Experienced

Bumping this up again, because I was contacted by them and the deadline was dropped AND they expanded the scope from siblings to anyone with GSA experience. If you still want to contact them, go ahead. For your consideration, if you have experienced Genetic Sexual Attraction... CBS News Productions, a department of CBS NEWS, is considering producing a documentary about GSA for cable television.  We are looking for people currently in a GSA relationship or those who have been in a past relationship to tell their stories on camera.  If interviewees prefer that their voice and appearance be disguised, we can adhere to that request.  No monetary compensation will be offered for one’s participation because this is against the policies of CBS News.  If interested, please...

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Posted in: coming out,consanguineous,GSA,media

News Media Request For GSA Experienced

Bumping this up again, because I was contacted by them and the deadline was dropped AND they expanded the scope from siblings to anyone with GSA experience. If you still want to contact them, go ahead. For your consideration, if you have experienced Genetic Sexual Attraction... CBS News Productions, a department of CBS NEWS, is considering producing a documentary about GSA for cable television.  We are looking for people currently in a GSA relationship or those who have been in a past relationship to tell their stories on camera.  If interviewees prefer that their voice and appearance be disguised, we can adhere to that request.  No monetary compensation will be offered for one’s participation because this is against the policies of CBS News.  If interested, please...

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Posted in: coming out,consanguineous,GSA,media

Why? Many of the Same Reasons Anyone Else Does It

Vicky Wireko wrote at myjoyonline.com under "Reality Zone: Why would a father sleep with his biological daughter?"Without yet getting to the text of the piece, the terms need to be defined. By "sleep," she no doubt means intercourse. But is she referring to rape or is she referring to consensual sex?  Rape and lovemaking are two different things. Rape should always be illegal. Lovemaking should never be illegal. But "biological daughter" can mean a woman the father didn't meet or didn't have a relationship with until she was an adult, or at least hasn't had a relationship with since an early age. Consanguinamory initiated through Genetic Sexual Attraction has a different dynamic than consanguinamory growing from an existing sociological...

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Posted in: consanguineous,FAQ,father-daughter,prejudice

Obligatory Flowers in the Attic Post

I'm not sure why, but Blogger tends to eat embedded videos, from their sister service YouTube no less, so I am bumping this up with the video embedded. Again.Lifetime is doing an adaptation of Flowers in the Attic. Here is a short trailer.It will be nice when we get some productions that depict consanguinamory as something that happens in "normal" or average lives, because it is. It is not just something found in horror scenarios or where there is child abuse or negle...

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Posted in: brother-sister,consanguineous,incest,media,siblings

Oakland County's Ax-Murdering Housewife Seeks Clemency

Sorry about that headline.  But this case was all-over your evening news back in 2004, when kindergarten teacher Nancy Ann Seaman axed her long-time husband to death on Mother's Day.Earlier this month, Ms. Seaman filed for clemency consideration with Governor Rick Snyder.  You might recall [but probably not] that 3-years ago, a federal judge granted Seaman's petition for Habeas Corpus.Ms. Seaman was jury convicted of first degree murder before retired Oakland Circuit Judge John McDonald.  Seven-months after her trial, Judge McDonald reduced Seaman's conviction from first to second degree murder.Both Seaman and the prosecutor appealed.  The Michigan Court of Appeals reversed the trial court and reinstated Seaman's first...

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Posted in: clemency,criminal defense lawyer,Governor Rick Snyder,murder

The Invisible Asterisk

Sometimes, when someone writes (or says) that they support the freedom to marry or, marriage equality, or #Marriage4All, or “love is love” or something like “The sex lives of consenting adults is nobody else’s business.,” there is an invisible asterisk. You know, one of these ==> *What might really be going on is this…“Consenting adults should be free to marry each other.”**Unless you mean something I don’t like or think is disgusting, like polygamy, open marriage, or consensual adult incest.I don’t do that. There is no asterisk in this statement…I support the rights of an adult to share love, sex, residence, and marriage with any and all consenting adults, without prosecution, bullying, or discrimination.There is no asterisk after “adult.” An “adult” includes any person, regardless of...

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Posted in: allies,freedom to marry,marriage equality,politicians,prejudice,solidarity,terminology

Massachusetts Still Doesn't Have Full Marriage Equality

Massachusetts led the way in the US in moving towards full marriage equality, but still isn't there yet. Here's an example of a same-gender wedding in the state to start a marriage that is still denied legal recognition, because it is polyamorous. Kitten, Brynn, and Doll shared their special day with offbeatbride.com, where you can go to see beautiful pictures and and a video, and learn the details about what was involved in the wedding.KevCool Photography captured these images. The Offbeat Bride: Kitten, Fashion Manager Her offbeat partners: Brynn, Computer Programer; Doll, Fashion DesignerDate and location of wedding: Codman Estate Lincoln, MA — August 4, 2013Our offbeat wedding at a glance: Our wedding had to include meaning...

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Posted in: boundaries,family reaction,freedom to marry,lack of equality harms,LGBT,love,polyamory,polygamy,religion,same-sex